Female Masturbation

Be warned, if you hit the right spot you may ejaculate . The showerhead is the unsung hero of pussy play. But still, there are lots of other resources to help get you off. Buy a few different sex toys and switch them up depending on your mood.

As mentioned above, the clitoris is more than just the outer, bean-shaped part. "It's the most nerve-rich part of the vulva, containing over 8,000 nerve endings, which is twice as many as the penis. This makes it the powerhouse of pleasure." Lisa thinks that, though sex toys can be a good way to introduce newcomers to the self-pleasure game, it's best to avoid becoming dependent on them.

As tempting as it may be to make your toy do all the heavy lifting, especially when you're tired and masturbating to conk out before bed, try to get your body into it. If you've just pulled into the self-service station, you might as well try penetrative masturbation—using your fingers, a dildo, or a phallic-shaped vibrator—to see if you like it. If you don't, nbd, you're still one step closer to knowing what you do like and being your own sex educator.

Increase the speed and pressure as the good vibrations begin to build. You may feel an explosive orgasm, but don’t worry if you don’t.

As sex educator Alix Fox — a script consultant on Netflix's Sex Education— puts it to me, "Porn often shows women rubbing themselves so frantically they look like they’re trying to start a campfire in their coochies." But in reality, those positions aren't necessarily the most conducive to pleasure for women. What might seem hot in a male fantasy — which informs much of the porn we watch — isn't always close to what actually female masturbation gets women off. Women masturbate with legs splayed and backs arched, orgasming after a few minutes of frantic rubbing and moaning.

Equally as important as getting a vibrator — pick a sex toy based on what already works for you when you masturbate. Maybe you’re in a rut and just bored to death of your go-to way to orgasm, or you simply want to change it up. We interviewed 14 anonymous women on exactly how they orgasm alone and all their techniques are pretty unique.

Masturbation is something people do to themselves, although “mutual masturbation” refers to people touching each others’ genitals for the same reason. A lot of us are guilty of falling into a masturbatory rut when it comes to what we do with our hands and fingers. Sometimes it feels like you're in a frantic rubbing race to get to an orgasm-shaped finish line. Fox recommends trying a bunch of different things with your fingers — the possibilities really are endless here. I asked women on Twitter to DM me their favourite masturbation positions — and my inbox was flooded with women telling me how much they love rubbing one out while lying face down.

Most importantly, be gentle and kind with yourself, and move away from goal-oriented thinking in your masturbation. Any form of self-love and exploration that makes you feel good is a wonderful thing. It took me a really long time to figure out that I personally preferred this indirect type of stimulation — but you may love going to town on your exposed clit. Explore until you find a way that works for you. Since hands are the world’s most versatile sex tool, you can experiment with both broad and pinpointed stimulation.

But now that I am a bit more experienced and confident sexually, I find the majority of it doesn't really cater to me. From memory we had sex education in Year 2, 5 and 7. Masturbation was probably brought up in Year 5 and 7, and both times they said it was normal, everyone does it — boys and girls. But it was like being told that it's OK to wet your bed. I remember experiencing my first sexual urges around 11 years old when I discovered an erotic magazine in my mum's drawer.

Touch and rub your erogenous zones while you’re at it for a steamy, full-body experience. Vibrators, plugs, anal beads, and massagers can intensify your orgasm tenfold. Who says anal orgasms are only for people with penises? You can still get off through anal play by indirectly stimulating the G-spot through the wall shared between the rectum and vagina.